I just want some rational opinions on this.
My boyfriend Tim and I will have been dating for 1 year on August 23rd. I'm 20, he's 23. It's a serious relationship and we strongly believe we're going to end up getting hitched one of these days, ha. We're very committed to each other and have a great relationship..we tell each other everything, we're very honest and trust worthy, etc, etc.
I still live with my mother. I can't afford to move out on my own yet. I go to school full time and work and am taking CNA classes this summer. I'm hoping to get out of my mom's house as soon as I can but right now I simply can't afford it.
He lives in a 2 bedroom townhouse with a male room mate right now. They signed a year lease and that lease expired this July. The room mate told Tim he wanted to stay another year, so Tim signed the lease for another year.
Well, last week the room mate decided he was moving out in October. So, Tim is now stuck at this townhouse and needs another room mate. He wants to stay there, don't get me wrong. he's just really annoyed (as am I!) that the room mate is bailing on him. He can afford the $650 rent a month as well as all his utilities and other bills..but doing that would make money extremely tight and he would have nothing extra, what so ever. So needless to say, he's looking for another room mate.
The only person that's had interest in moving in with him so far is a girl. I haven't met her yet but I think I'm going to meet her Tuesday. From what I've heard from other people..she kind of acts flirty with Tim. I have her as a friend on Facebook (she's in Tim's book club and added me.) and she's constantly commenting on his stuff and asking me about him or him about me. I believe she's his age. She just recently (I think a month ago) got a boyfriend. I'm not sure how good their relationship is, but I'm worried that she may be interested in Tim a little bit. Call me slightly jealous I guess.
Should I be okay with him living with a girl?? I can't move in with him because a)I can't afford it and b)they don't allow pets at that place and I have Delilah as well as my two rats. Plus, we aren't sure that we want to live together yet. We aren't sure if we want to live together before we're married. That's still up for discussion..I really don't know what we think about that yet.
I'm just somewhat concerned about another girl living there. He walks around his house in his underwear and I reaaaallly don't want her seeing that. I don't want to feel like I'm competing with another woman. She's skinny and athletic and has the perfect body and I'm short and chubby and can't lose weight no matter how much I work out. I'm insecure as all get out and I'll be the first to admit it.
I want Tim to have a room mate and be financially comfortable without stressing. This is NOT set in stone. He said he plain out won't do it if it is going to bother me that much. I trust Tim. Just don't know if I trust her, lol. He's still looking into other options as well. Help?
My boyfriend Tim and I will have been dating for 1 year on August 23rd. I'm 20, he's 23. It's a serious relationship and we strongly believe we're going to end up getting hitched one of these days, ha. We're very committed to each other and have a great relationship..we tell each other everything, we're very honest and trust worthy, etc, etc.
I still live with my mother. I can't afford to move out on my own yet. I go to school full time and work and am taking CNA classes this summer. I'm hoping to get out of my mom's house as soon as I can but right now I simply can't afford it.
He lives in a 2 bedroom townhouse with a male room mate right now. They signed a year lease and that lease expired this July. The room mate told Tim he wanted to stay another year, so Tim signed the lease for another year.
Well, last week the room mate decided he was moving out in October. So, Tim is now stuck at this townhouse and needs another room mate. He wants to stay there, don't get me wrong. he's just really annoyed (as am I!) that the room mate is bailing on him. He can afford the $650 rent a month as well as all his utilities and other bills..but doing that would make money extremely tight and he would have nothing extra, what so ever. So needless to say, he's looking for another room mate.
The only person that's had interest in moving in with him so far is a girl. I haven't met her yet but I think I'm going to meet her Tuesday. From what I've heard from other people..she kind of acts flirty with Tim. I have her as a friend on Facebook (she's in Tim's book club and added me.) and she's constantly commenting on his stuff and asking me about him or him about me. I believe she's his age. She just recently (I think a month ago) got a boyfriend. I'm not sure how good their relationship is, but I'm worried that she may be interested in Tim a little bit. Call me slightly jealous I guess.
Should I be okay with him living with a girl?? I can't move in with him because a)I can't afford it and b)they don't allow pets at that place and I have Delilah as well as my two rats. Plus, we aren't sure that we want to live together yet. We aren't sure if we want to live together before we're married. That's still up for discussion..I really don't know what we think about that yet.
I'm just somewhat concerned about another girl living there. He walks around his house in his underwear and I reaaaallly don't want her seeing that. I don't want to feel like I'm competing with another woman. She's skinny and athletic and has the perfect body and I'm short and chubby and can't lose weight no matter how much I work out. I'm insecure as all get out and I'll be the first to admit it.
I want Tim to have a room mate and be financially comfortable without stressing. This is NOT set in stone. He said he plain out won't do it if it is going to bother me that much. I trust Tim. Just don't know if I trust her, lol. He's still looking into other options as well. Help?
Not that it helps you now. I am all for living together before marriage because too many people get divorced these days cuz they marry without knowing what they are getting into. You are young tho, take your time. 
I don't have one of those!
